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On #6, I've been using a variation I read recently. "If someone said that about [friend] would you defend them?"
It has helped a lot. I've realized in the last month especially that the way I treat myself, the thoughts I have about myself, are borderline abusive. If I were in a relationship with someone and they expected of me what I give myself shit for doing/not doing, they'd 100% be a toxic and abusive partner. If someone openly talked about my friends the way my brain talks about me, I'd knock their teeth out. Just because it's coming from inside doesn't mean it's not abusive. Don't let your mind abuse you, because that POS will try every time if you let it.