37
submitted 1 week ago by ricesoup@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

My problem is I’ve got a clear job description that management and some coworkers who feel entitled to boss me around oftentimes forget because it suits them to offload what they don’t want to do on me. What infuriates me is, it lasts way longer to argue with them than simply getting the job done, but if I don’t establish a boundary I feel like an idiot, because I feel they offloaded their shit on me, meaning they’ll keep doing that in the future, because I didn’t establish a boundary.

Establishing a boundary sometimes means they badmouth me, complain about me to my superior or yell at me, but I’m in a union.

I’m also not a patient person and arguing with a coworker about job duties when those are clearly written is not my strong suit. I just want to do my job and get paid.

When management offloads like this, I comply the first time, but then I start half assing it, working slower, not doing the job as good as I could.

This is not sustainable and feels like bullying. How do you deal with this?

you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments
[-] pheonixdown@sh.itjust.works 16 points 1 week ago

You're in a union, talk to your union rep, bring documentation of the incidents and see what they think and if they can help. If they agree and help, great.

If they can't help, then anytime anyone outside your management chain asks you to do something, you can say something to the effect of I'd love to help, can you just ask my manager for permission to prioritize your task over their normal priorities for me. If your manager/management chain asks you to do something, make sure you tell them what won't get done properly or timely if you comply with their task "If I do XYZ tasks, then I won't have time to finish ABC priority today", if they're ok it, then you document it and suck it up.

The keys here are: always act as if you're willing and happy to help, you only do work authorized by the people who can give you work, the people who give you work are the bad guys if they say no and they become aware of all the extra requests of your time, don't overload your trying to carry your own work and someone else's, document as much as possible in case someone in your management chain has an issue with you not having done something that a manager agreed to.

That's what's worked for me in the corporate world at least, not sure what your environment is, so YMMV.

this post was submitted on 16 May 2026
37 points (100.0% liked)

Asklemmy

54383 readers
364 users here now

A loosely moderated place to ask open-ended questions

Search asklemmy 🔍

If your post meets the following criteria, it's welcome here!

  1. Open-ended question
  2. Not offensive: at this point, we do not have the bandwidth to moderate overtly political discussions. Assume best intent and be excellent to each other.
  3. Not regarding using or support for Lemmy: context, see the list of support communities and tools for finding communities below
  4. Not ad nauseam inducing: please make sure it is a question that would be new to most members
  5. An actual topic of discussion

Looking for support?

Looking for a community?

~Icon~ ~by~ ~@Double_A@discuss.tchncs.de~

founded 7 years ago
MODERATORS