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I definitely agree with you. I have been flooded time and time again with messages from people telling me Iām an egg because of some comment I made. If I admire a lesbian couple, if I have a feeling or preference that skews feminine, or even something as innocuous as choosing female characters in a game because the male options look like hot garbage.
Iām 100% cis. I have a beard and a dick and they feel natural to me and I love them.
But Iām not about to defend my self identity to a bunch of people that feel justified telling me to completely change my life based off of one quickly skimmed internet comment. So instead, I just keep it to myself.
I feel cowed and silenced by this very vocally enthusiastic group of people, who tragically think they are āfreeingā me. Men can have all sorts of feelings, and itās OK. And someday, people will be OK hearing about it as well.
Remember anything and everything can be toxic even good intentions if it comes from the wrong place.
Don't let peer pressure get to you, it can warp your self perception and create problems when there were none in the first place.
Iv watched it happen more then once where someone lets all the loud voices telling them their an egg get to them. When they really arnt. It changes them confused them and creates unhealthy mental spaces. There's a reason it's considered a dick move in bird culture to crack someone's egg. That includes putting someone in an egg when they didn't have one in the first place.
Peer pressure can be a VERY strong force. And anyone trying to tell someone else what they are above all else. Is an asshole and not worth the time or mental space to listen to. Even if they do so for entirely good intentions.
The only person who can decide who and what you are. Is yourself. And remember everyone else, the path to hell is paved with good intentions. You may be one voice but you don't know how many other one voices are also out there.
Don't accidentally become part of the problem. Don't crack eggs it's not your place.
This said as a straight white man who can enjoy the finer things in life thanks to good well rounded emotionally available male role models growing up.
Yeah, I totally get it. I feel incredibly isolated from the world around me even tho it has never been more outwardly welcoming. I don't have anyone to share my rummiations with. I personally blame it on both a combination of a small town that doesn't support my interests and my habits being inherently isolating. So basically just spend life taking my dogs for a walk on my own and playing videogames.
I'm gonna be real with you, I've met those people you're talking about and they're mostly just terminally online people who don't have a ton of life experience. They found something out about themselves and it was so profound to them that they think it's a global truth to paint everyone else with. It is completely understandable to be annoyed or put off by those people because it's a hella inappropriate thing to "jokingly" accuse someone of.
Worse, people like who you're talking about actively push harmful rhetoric that straight cis men must be trans because otherwise they wouldn't have feelings/be gentler/dress non-confirmingly/whatever and end up contributing to the harmful gender stereotypes themselves.
Don't get me wrong, I'm trans and it was true for me, but there's a time and a place and a type of relationship you need to have with someone before talking about that sort of thing.
A lot of r/egg_irl memes were about that clothing, behavior and interests. It makes sense for memes, because memes need to simplify and focus on something that can be visualized. That sub is meant to encourage and validate. But I think thatās also in part where this is coming from. egg_irl here is thankfully less relatable
Absolutely. r/egg_irl memes are funny and relatable when (IF) you're in your egg phase or you went through one. The retrospective nature of "I did this thing because I was desperate to live my gender in a safe/outward way... still cis though" is a completely understandable and cathartic thing.
But that is a place for people who ARE trans or gender questioning to release some of that pressure. Dragging that elsewhere and being so arrogant that you'd be okay with diagnosing someone else's gender dysphoria is awful.
I said in another post that the people I've met like this are often terminally online and not really socialized very well outside their cultural spaces and I think that holds true here, too. If you live and breathe in trans-focused spaces (especially if you're younger/the space is oriented towards that age group) it becomes easy to completely misunderstand communication and acceptable behavior outside those spaces.
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