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The Sleep thing (hexbear.net)

The one thing about my neurotype that bothers me sometimes is my night owlness.

If I have no mandated early morning thing I will not go to sleep. Despite my best intentions to do that. Just today I had a free day, but had a morning appointment and by noon I was amazed at *all the day I have left *because I got up sooner.

I love nights. I love the darkness and the solitude, I love how silent it is and how safe and like myself I feel when everyone else is sleeping. And I've always been like this. As a kid I read books in bed until morning, as I grew up I watched whatever was on on tv until the wee hours. There were the gaming years as well and now I browse the internet.

There is no real point to this rant. I suppose it would just be nice to have more time in my freedays, but I also don't want to give up my nights of solitude or patholozise what I have always been like.

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[-] Gucci_Minh@hexbear.net 31 points 3 days ago

Morning people are an oppressive class

[-] BobDole@hexbear.net 15 points 3 days ago

The early bird ~~gets the worm~~ is a nerd nerd

[-] urmums401k@hexbear.net 25 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

It feels like you aren't the problem here, just the fact the world doesn't really accommodate you. Edit: but does accommodate others at the cost of you

[-] StillNoLeftLeft@hexbear.net 4 points 2 days ago

Empire of Normality, it needs to go. heart-sickle

[-] urmums401k@hexbear.net 2 points 2 days ago

Yes it does. And in the age of climate change; LEDs at night are cheaper than AC in day. This shit is wasteful.

[-] SoyViking@hexbear.net 17 points 3 days ago

I'm just here to say it's exactly the same for me.

[-] GalaxyBrain@hexbear.net 11 points 3 days ago

I work evening for this reason. I am the night man

[-] StillNoLeftLeft@hexbear.net 2 points 2 days ago

I started working nights from a teenager, absolutely loved it. I have chosen jobs previously only because you can do them at night: baker, taxi driver, post delivery... But these days I am in an office type client facing job so it doesn't work.

[-] z3rOR0ne@lemmy.ml 8 points 3 days ago

Same. Always been a true night owl. I say true because most people think, "oh, goes to bed very late, like 4am." But for me, I naturally wake up at 8pm to 9pm. I go to sleep close to 1pm.

The world is nicer at nights as long as you are in a generally safe quiet area. Gives me time to study, read, exercise, etc. without interruptions in peace. Now if only there were stationary jobs other than Hotel Night Auditor that existed for people who naturally gravitate towards that sleep schedule.

[-] StillNoLeftLeft@hexbear.net 2 points 2 days ago

Agree with the true-thing. I too have been like this from a wee kid. My parents had a hard time getting me up from toddler whereas my sibling is a morning person. My dad is like me and my mom like my sibling. It caused inredible conflits in our family as my mom is not a nice person and she'd harass me awake out of spite on weekends.

I too wish I could just work nights, I used to, but my current job is very much office hours.

[-] eldavi@lemmy.ml 9 points 3 days ago

i used to build miniature houses using discarded cardboard and paper up until it was time to "wake up" and go to school as a child; now-a-days i leverage my sleep apnea to make me so tired that i struggle to stay awake past 10pm. lol

[-] Thordros@hexbear.net 7 points 3 days ago

If it weren't for my kids needing to be at certain places at certain times (e.g. school, haha, nerds!), my sleep schedule would be dictated entirely by which appointments I have this week.

[-] StillNoLeftLeft@hexbear.net 1 points 2 days ago

My partner is a morning person and us both being neurospicy we had a deal when our kid was growing up that he did the mornings and I did the afternoon/evening parenting. Best deal I ever made.:D

[-] DeathToBritain@hexbear.net 6 points 3 days ago

reading this at 3am GMT. yeah... I feel ya

[-] RedDawn@hexbear.net 4 points 3 days ago
[-] GarfieldOfficial@hexbear.net 3 points 3 days ago

I usually fall asleep pretty early (9ish) but I have periods where my sleep cycle is fucked and I wake up at 3. Still though, like you said the solitude is so nice. The cat appreciates another night creature to keep her company too

[-] StillNoLeftLeft@hexbear.net 3 points 2 days ago

The world is just softer at night.

this post was submitted on 19 Nov 2024
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