[-] dandylion@lemmy.zip 5 points 1 day ago

thank you for sharing patiently, I need to learn a lot about this.

[-] dandylion@lemmy.zip 1 points 1 day ago

yeah that last point you mention is huge. thank ya

[-] dandylion@lemmy.zip 5 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

"I'm open to the idea of women only spaces if they serve a function"

  1. who asked though? these spaces are for healing and safety and those who need to heal and recharge make the rules. we dont need your okay to create space the way we need it.
  2. that doesn't prevent other/additional groups forming which ALSO include men, any queer folks, nb, trans.

and those people know that.

so what exactly is the problem with women only safe spaces?

[-] dandylion@lemmy.zip 12 points 1 day ago

sure: when (and that is quite often unfortunately) women who seek these spaces have been abused by men repeatedly and can't risk another trauma trigger.

and feminist men know where they're welcome. so it's rarely (in my own experience never) truly feminist men who want to join those spaces because they understand boundaries.

[-] dandylion@lemmy.zip 3 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

I can only say be the change you want to see. It creates a chain reaction that will eventually reach men that wouldn't touch the book.

even a small step in the right direction of confronting patriarchy will have powerful results.

[-] dandylion@lemmy.zip 11 points 1 day ago

good point, but I fear that just creating male only spaces will not solve the problem with male loneliness. as can be seen in x-pill communities.

what men need to heal male loneliness is learn about how patrairchy has shaped their fathers & generations beyond, and how they haven't learned to approach emotions in a healthy way.

a good book I HIGHLY recommend men to read is Bell Hooks - "The will to change"

she explains what damage patriarchy did to men and how to access and feel emoti8ns fully

I wish for all men to be seen fully in your entire vulnerability. we're waiting for you.

[-] dandylion@lemmy.zip 7 points 1 day ago

there are women only spaces for our protection and safety... (which is why we're open to trans people as well)

there are men only spaces because they want to exclude women / maintain their power (fraternities, lodges)

it is VERY important that humans today learn this difference.

[-] dandylion@lemmy.zip 6 points 1 week ago

thank you. very important to share here.

unfortunately I've heard similar phrasings and ideas expressed by 20- and 30-something year olds in the gaming community. still has me feeling unwell.

[-] dandylion@lemmy.zip 6 points 1 week ago

I absolutely cannot imagine the hell they're going through right now.

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[-] dandylion@lemmy.zip 2 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

please end pedo, rapist patriarchy capitalism asap. this is a cruel world as long as these power issues are not fully dismantled.

to all of those who haven't read much on how patriarchy and capitalism go hand in hand I am begging you to inform yourself.

not asking anyone to become a feminist. but I noticed people act all surprised when men in power with severe personality disorders use their power to rape and torture the poor and weak.

this is and has been a systemic issue for a very long time and being informed on this fully can help us create a better world.

stay informed I love you humans.

[-] dandylion@lemmy.zip 3 points 1 week ago

can we let cats be cats please

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And why were people not repulsed by that statement?

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