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The real issue is that the alcohol's pleasant buzz itself is only part of the equation. A huge portion of regular social spots come with the expectation of alcohol in your system. If you are avoiding alcohol its seen as almost "cheating" because you are inhibited and controlled compared to everyone else around you who are psychologically vulnerable due to inebriation. Drinking is a communal agreement to chemically alter ourselves to be more honest and open. Its sort of a trust serum.
Choosing to not drink isolates you. Though drinking too much can also isolate you for different reasons.
Choosing to be isolated is really bad for you, worse than the negative effects of moderate alcohol consumption. (You are not a introvert, that is not a thing)
The isolation is a personal preference. After overcoming the initial pressure to drink diplomatically (which means different things in different cultures), the drinkers usually just accept the non-drinker and continue as usual. If you are fine with being sober while the others aren't, that actually is a viable option.
Overcoming the initial pressure to drink everytime to interact with new people at a bar might be feasible if you are allistic. That sounds exhausting to me.
And if you think that even generally good people wont subconciously place you in a different category as a non-drinker (or even someone who stops after a certain number of drinks in my case) I feel that is a naivety.
Further, even among less good people, you might want to care. There are material consequences to one's social standing. They just aren't immediately obvious.