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[PSA] If things start feeling too toxic around here, remember that the 'block' button is your friend and always there for you. (dubvee.org)

submitted 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) by ptz@dubvee.org to c/fediverse@lemmy.world

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I get it. There's some real jerks around here. Whether they're constantly argumentative, downright rude, always acting in bad faith, just plain trolls, overly opinionated on every subject, have the social skills of a Nausicaan, or whatever - the Fediverse is growing, and it's bound to attract toxicity in one way or another.

This post is mostly a PSA for anyone who's feeling like leaving because they're tired of dealing with things like that. I've been there several times myself, I know exactly how you feel, and I'm tired of seeing good people harassed off the platform.

Just remember that blocking is a very powerful way to stay in control of your experience. Be it a set of users, me specifically, a list of keywords, a whole community, or an entire instance: if it's causing you nothing but stress, hit that block button and see if that improves your experience here. Unlike the alien site, there is no limit to the number of entities you can block; you're in control.

Another thing to keep in mind is different instances have different vibes, and the experience can totally differ depending on the instance's moderation and federation policy.

In conclusion, your experience here can be what you make of it; don't be afraid to just block the parts that stress you out. You're not "creating an echo chamber" as everyone likes to say (often in bad faith) -- you're just taking care of yourself.

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[-] ocean@lemmy.selfhostcat.com 2 points 3 months ago

What I read to do is to call them out, report them, then block them. They need to know they’re being mean.

[-] homesweethomeMrL@lemmy.world 2 points 3 months ago

Block users and instances (although blocking instances just blocks the topic posts from that instance, not all the users from that instance).

[-] reseller_pledge609@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 3 months ago

Wish instance blocking actually blocked properly. But the main devs know everyone would block the tanky triad immediately and they'd have no one to troll.

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[-] phlegmy@sh.itjust.works 2 points 3 months ago

Filters are nice too, if you're here for escapism rather than news.

[-] fxomt@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 3 months ago

Currently, only lemmy apps support keyword filtering. But on lemmy 1.0 we're going to get proper keyword filters :DDDD

https://github.com/LemmyNet/lemmy/pull/5263

[-] frostysauce@lemmy.world 0 points 3 months ago

Wait, were not even on 1.0 yet?

[-] fxomt@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 3 months ago

Nope. Latest version is 1.19.11 but next should be 1.0

[-] GuardYaGrill@sh.itjust.works -1 points 3 months ago

Musk agree with this, filters work wonders.

[-] Kolanaki@pawb.social 1 points 3 months ago

have the social skills of a Nausicaan

Play Domjot?

[-] TabbsTheBat@pawb.social 1 points 3 months ago

I use the block button like hideki kamiya uwu

[-] VinesNFluff@pawb.social 1 points 3 months ago

In conclusion, your experience here can be what you make of it; don’t be afraid to just block the parts that stress you out. You’re not “creating an echo chamber” as everyone likes to say (often in bad faith) – you’re just taking care of yourself.

We really, REALLY need to de-stigmatize blocking people. Bad-faith concern trolls have successfully convinced people that "choosing not to interact with someone" is akin to censorship and also bad for us because what do you MEAN you don't want to be disrespected by a complete stranger? Are you creating an echo chamber by preferring to be with people who are nice to you?!?!?!?

Like. No. Fuck off. That's not how it works in real life. We're not friends. We're not even co-workers for me to be stuck having to be polite to you even if you're an asshole.

You're a complete stranger and you're saying rude shit at me (or even at other people with me bearing witness), at best I'll walk away because I don't need that shit, at worst I'll call you a wanker and hit you in the face.

[-] LainTrain@lemmy.dbzer0.com 0 points 3 months ago

I have blocked 264 users, 9 communities and 4 instances and it's made Lemmy much better for me toxicity wise. Whenever a debate gets toxic or someone starts just insulting or discussing in bad faith or I just get a bad vibe from them - I block.

[-] domdanial@reddthat.com 1 points 3 months ago

I'm with you in spirit if not numbers. My experience with hexbear users led me to blocking the whole instance, and I regularly block people I don't even converse with based on how they treat other users or other topics. If someone has such a bad take on topic A, I don't care about their possible opinions on topic B and C in the future.

I get the argument of echo chamber isolation, but most of the things I'm willing to block people over are also things that I won't be changing my mind about because of a forum post.

[-] TON618@lemmy.world 1 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

You've been here for year and blocked 264 people, I mean this in the nicest way possible, but ever consider the problem is not the people you block? I think i've legitimately blocked maybe 20 people in my whole entire online life (I'm almost 40), most of it spent on platforms like Reddit.

But then I have a high aversion for echo chambers and only block obvious trolls, mostly to keep them from blowing up my notifications. I feel it's much better to just not give random strangers on the internet the power to actually affect your mood.