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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/T1METR4VEL on 2023-10-06 12:31:14.

Yesterday was my girlfriends birthday. We are both 30. The night before her birthday I treated her to a dinner. At this dinner I also arranged for her to get candle and be sung to by the staff. Then we went home where I gave her a birthday gift which was a monogrammed item she really wanted, plus a related gift certificate to a a cooking class for two. We spent the night together. In the morning before she left for work I gave her a big kiss and said happy birthday.

Throughout the day we texted about our schedule and stuff going on as we planned to meet up later for drinks with her friends. At drinks, she complained to her friends how screwed up it was that I didn’t send a birthday text. And kept going on about it.

From my perspective, we went to dinner the night before just the two of us, I got her a gift and a handwritten birthday card, and then we planned to also hang out at night the next day. A birthday text seemed totally unnecessary in my mind as I am spending tons of time with her and celebrating her birthday in person with her the night before and the night of.

Am I wrong for not sending a birthday text, or is she being immature?

Thank you

Edit: forgot to add I also am treating her to a magic show tonight. So that’s dinner and a gift Wednesday night, out with her friends Thursday night, Friday night magic show just us two.