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[-] Amaltheamannen@lemmy.ml 47 points 1 year ago

I mean while the phrasing is cringe I can understand it. I can not watch anything like Parcs and Rec or the Office because that kind of cringe humour where the characters emberass themselves physically hurts.

[-] SomeoneElse@lemmy.ca 11 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Parks and rec and the American office don’t bother me but the original office makes me mortified with second hand embarrassment! But then that’s the point.

[-] marco@beehaw.org 3 points 11 months ago

OMG, for the longest time I thought I was the only one this happened to.

Like, I don't even want to go to the cinema anymore because there might be embarrassing scenes in the movie.

[-] DakRalter@thelemmy.club 3 points 6 months ago

I'm like that with violent scenes, even though I know it's fake and no one is getting hurt, I still get highly distressed. I wasn't always like that, it got to that point more in my late 20s I think. I can play fighting games and such like just fine, although the bit in Witcher 3 when one of the women gets her face slammed on a table made me upset.

[-] sim_@beehaw.org 1 points 1 year ago

That’s me with Psych. The show is beyond uncomfortable humor.

[-] Kusimulkku@lemm.ee -1 points 1 year ago

that kind of cringe humour where the characters emberass themselves physically hurts

But that's what makes it so good

[-] Kalladblog@lemmy.world 36 points 1 year ago

Tfw everything nowadays needs to be a mental disorder.

[-] BruceTwarzen@kbin.social 12 points 1 year ago

It's fucking weird being a guy on tinder these days. Uhm yes, i'm a scorpio and therefore an empath, my character type is emjp, i need to vacuum twice a week because of my OCD 🤪 and i can't sit still because of my ADHD.
Bitch, what even are you?

[-] Kusimulkku@lemm.ee 5 points 1 year ago

I have this disorder where I like wine and traveling.

[-] Honytawk@lemmy.zip 1 points 11 months ago

Ah, Basic Bitch Syndrome

Pares well with pumpkin spice

[-] Maeve@kbin.social 5 points 1 year ago

It’s because mental illness is so normalized, anything approaching normal and healthy is pathologized.

[-] BruceTwarzen@kbin.social 39 points 1 year ago

I'd trade my ADHD for being normal every day of the week. It's even worse when people tell you about how they have ADHD because they are just annoying. And i sit there thinking: yeah i know what you mean, sometimes i don't take my ADHD meds, because i have ADHD, and then i don't answer text messages or pay bills for a few month, lol so random and fun.

[-] Maeve@kbin.social 13 points 1 year ago

Recognizing your illness and doing what you need to do, especially self-care, is healthy and admirable. Wishing you all the best.

[-] agent_flounder@lemmy.world 29 points 1 year ago

Alternate take: mental illness continues to be widely misunderstood.

[-] Maeve@kbin.social 4 points 1 year ago

I do agree. Are my words somehow offensive or dismissive?

[-] agent_flounder@lemmy.world 9 points 1 year ago

Thanks for asking. Not offensive to me personally just felt like it didn't quite capture what what's going on in my view.

[-] Maeve@kbin.social 3 points 1 year ago

Idk, when I was growing up, add/adhd, dyslexia, asd were unidentified, so I’m trying to learn because i feel I’ve two of the three conditions. I muddle through as best I can.

[-] agent_flounder@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago

Same. Autism was only for the most extreme cases as far as I knew and ADHD wasn't diagnosed often. I didn't get diagnosed until I was 40.

[-] Maeve@kbin.social 2 points 1 year ago

Wow. Have things improved since?

[-] agent_flounder@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

Absolutely. Between therapy and meds it has definitely helped me in pretty much every area of my life. It's still challenging but less so.

[-] Maeve@kbin.social 2 points 11 months ago

I’m so happy you got treatment that works for you; in a just society, everyone could.

[-] agent_flounder@lemmy.world 1 points 11 months ago

Too true. Healthcare including mental health care is a right. Nobody should suffer because they lack funds.

[-] Maeve@kbin.social 2 points 11 months ago

When we stop funding death, destruction and climate extinction, we can fund life more abundantly. Yes, I’ma dreamer; it mitigates the nightmare our societies currently fund.

[-] Kolanaki@yiffit.net 34 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Being completely overwhelmed by empathy is legitimately a symptom of autism and other mental disorders. Most people may have empathy in various degrees; but they're not debilitated by it like some neurodivergent people are.

[-] enitoni@beehaw.org 4 points 11 months ago

Meanwhile my autistic ass is very empathetic but only in very specific cases and not in the ways people expect so I've been labeled lacking in empathy.

[-] DakRalter@thelemmy.club 1 points 6 months ago

I'm a lot like that too. An article about a person I never knew dying can leave my heart aching days, weeks or even years later. I see a stranger crying and I start to cry too. And yet other things can leave me feeling nothing. My mum is in severe pain from terminal cancer and there are moments when it gets to me, but other times I feel almost nothing and I can't tell if it's because I'm just a heartless cow or I'm doing a really good job blocking it out (schizoid skills ftw).

[-] aiden@lemm.ee 3 points 11 months ago

I think I have that a little bit, my chest tightens and it feels hard to breathe

[-] essellburns@beehaw.org 29 points 1 year ago

Speaking from a therapist point of view...

Empathy is the ability to understand someone else's experience, to grasp something of what they're thinking, feeling, etc.

It doesn't automatically imply that you care, you can respond to that understanding of someone else's life with compassion, indifference or anything else.

The colloquial usage of the word empathy to mean "consideration and caring" is problematic as is oftentimes an imagining of how the observer would feel if they were in the difficult situation, rather than the useful version of understanding how the other person feels within that difficult situation.

[-] jonc211@programming.dev 6 points 1 year ago

My understanding is that they refer to different types of empathy.

What’s you’re describing is cognitive empathy and in the OP it’s describing emotional empathy.

https://www.verywellmind.com/cognitive-and-emotional-empathy-4582389

[-] SlikPikker@lemmy.ca 24 points 1 year ago

Being a sociopath seems really goddamn convenient.

[-] 1847953620@lemmy.world 19 points 1 year ago

empathy? In this economy?

[-] TheDarksteel94@sopuli.xyz 6 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

I actually hate when people just call it empathy, because feeling like this goes beyond that. Usually your mind shields you from feeling too much empathy. It helps you to cope with all of the awful shit around you, sometimes by just subconsciously ignoring it.

If you constantly feel bad for every bad thing happening around you, it can be pretty debilitating. That homeless guy you walk past on the street? Sad. That bird that just killed itself by flying into a window? Sad. War and famine all over the world, caused by absolute wastes of oxygen in skinsuits? The worst.

I personally know someone who will actually start to cry if they see someone sad on the subway or wherever.

[-] CaptainMcMonkey@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago

There’s actually a really effective treatment for this condition! I mean, I don’t know what it is, but my mom figured it out. I’ll have to ask her about it.

[-] BruceTwarzen@kbin.social 2 points 1 year ago

There is a crystal for that.

[-] Honytawk@lemmy.zip 1 points 11 months ago

Ok, I'll ask her next time she spends the night at my place.

[-] CaptainMcMonkey@lemmy.world 1 points 11 months ago

Can you distract her until after Christmas? My family would really appreciate it.

[-] ARk@lemm.ee 0 points 1 year ago

You just have to spend a few days being a reddit mod

[-] LemmyKnowsBest@lemmy.world 2 points 11 months ago

everything is a disorder now. Like my eyes leaking water whenever someone makes me sad. I'm going to Google my symptoms and see how many days I have left to live.

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