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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Short-Personality811 on 2023-09-17 14:14:51.
My baby's dad left me for another woman when I was 7 months pregnant. He was also abusive during my pregnancy which was investigated by authorities however there was a lack of evidence and he wasn't charged.
He made minimal effort after he was born to come and see him, stating he would not help me with his care as a newborn and following my c section surgery, so I had to do it all alone. Was only coming once a week for around 30minutes to see him, and when he was 7 weeks old stopped coming altogether.
I bent over backwards when he was visiting him, making him coffee and even left my own home on two occasions for an hour so he could be alone with his son. However he was always unpleasant and spoke down to me. I just accepted it and thought it's better than him not seeing him at all at the time.
When he was 3 months old he sent me a lawyer's letter wanting me to give the baby to his mother every week for 3 hours for him to see without us coming into contact to stop us arguing.
My lawyer responded offering him twice weekly contact for 2hrs at a time instead, to build contact (short and frequent is what's recommended at that age) slowly from there, however he never responded to the letter. We chased him up 2 further times over the next 3 months but heard nothing.
Fast forward to when our son is 7 months old and he has applied to the family court for child contact arrangements, with overnight once a week.
I wrote two defamatory posts on facebook about what he had done during the pregnancy and abandoning me for another woman in the past 6 months - I deleted them both times after a couple of hours of posting them, it was an outlet for my frustration which I know I shouldn't have done.
He is now saying I was harassing him to child services.
Am I the asshole for telling the world on social media what he did?
Now I am petrified of going to court to face him and being told off by the judge.