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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/ProudCauliflower1533 on 2023-09-19 21:45:05.

My friend Alissa is getting married in a few months and I'm the Maid of Honor planning her bachelorette trip.

I am in a group chat with all of her friends (Alissa is not in this group) so I can plan stuff. At the beginning of the month, I asked the girls to send me their payments for the airbnb by the end of the month. Some have sent theirs, others not yet but I'm taking care of it. I forward all the payments to Alissa since she is booking the airbnb and then the rest of us are paying for the rest of the trip.

Alissa messaged me a few days ago asking if there was anyone else who was planning to send their payments, as we were waiting on a few more girls. I didn't respond to her because I would take care of it.

Today she messaged me with an update saying she reached out to the remaining girls and told me when they were planning to send it. I felt a bit hurt that she went behind my back to take care of it as I'm the one planning it, and it made me feel like she thinks I can't plan the trip.

I told her to back off and asked her why she doesn't trust me, and told her to stay out of the planning. She got offended and told me that I'm taking it too personally and that it's her bachelorette and she's allowed to text her own friends. Now it's a been awkward and tense between us.

My mom told me I was rude and aggressive for telling her to back off, but I feel like I'm a bit justified. Imagine being told to do a job and someone just does it for you. It makes you wonder if they think you're incompetent.

AITA?