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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Caringcarebear3255 on 2023-09-20 14:02:59.

I want to start this by clarifying that I am not in the wedding party, I would have been a guest. My fiancé and I were invited to his sisters out of state wedding happening at the end of this month. As a courtesy and to build friendship I sent her a picture of two dresses that I was deciding between 4 months before the wedding and asked her opinion. We don't have a lot in common and this was the only thing I knew we could carry a conversation about. She picked the pretty blue dress that matched the family color theme. Fast forward to 3 weeks before the wedding she sends me a text saying she decided she doesn't like the dress after all and says she will take me shopping at goodwill to get a dress "more appropriate" for $10 max. I told her I paid a lot for the dress and didn't understand the issue. She texted back huge messages about I needed to get over myself and had no idea how stressful it is to plan a wedding, that she doesn't even know if she can pay for the venue. She had asked to borrow $1000 a week before that for the wedding and we couldn't help as we are saving for our own wedding and didnt feel comfortable we would be paid back as has happened in the past. She ended the convo there but later texted my fiance letting him know my son from a previous relationship and his "girlfriend" meaning me are no longer invited to the wedding. My fiance is refusing to go without us and told her we are his family. She retracted the whole statement a day later and said everyone could come but I don't go where I am not wanted. I told my fiance he could go without me if he wanted but he doesnt want to go anymore. AITA for refusing to go?