This is an automated archive made by the Lemmit Bot.

The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/gloomyforces on 2023-09-22 15:11:39.

In the rental I currently live in, we have a communal room in the basement where everybody has a space for their washer and dryer if needed.

My old neighbour from across the hall (R) didn't have a dryer while living here, but she and I had an agreement, where she was allowed to use my dryer for free, if she plugged it into her own outlet. In return, she watered my plants if I was on holiday, I was allowed to eat her home-grown tomatoes she grew in the backyard and sometimes I'd watch her dog. All free of charge, basically just little niceties between neighbours.

Now 3 month ago, R moved out and L moved in. I met her in the hall a few times and since she now studies veterinary medicine, which I also did in the past, I offered her help and my old stuff should she ever need it. Basically, I was always nice to her the few times we met before this situation unfolded.Now a few days ago I wanted to wash some clothing and saw that my dryer was just done running, while plugged into my own outlet. Coincidentally, L came down just as I was down there and just started wordlessly unloading her clothes out of my dryer. So I asked her if she knew that it was in fact my dryer and not a communal one? She said she knew, but since R mentioned she was allowed to co-use my dryer while she lived here, she assumed that she was as well.

Honestly, I would have had no problem with her co-using my dryer, but I didn't like that she didn't even ask beforehand. So I told her no, I would prefer if she didn't use my dryer, since she didn't ask. L just huffed and walked out and I assumed that was that.

No. I caught her using my dryer two more times, each time plugged into my own outlet. Each time, I unplugged it and asked her to please not use my dryer again. Stupidly though, I allowed her to finish drying her clothes each time, provided she plugged my dryer into her own outlet. After the last time I (again) thought, well that's that, she must've now understood I don't want her using my dryer.

Again, no. I caught her using my dryer again earlier today. So I simply unplugged it and removed the cord entirely so she couldn't plug it into her own outlet and also didn't inform her of what I did. She just pounded on my door 30 or so minutes ago and screamed at me, because apparently her clothes now smell bad because they were left in the dryer, still wet, for too long.

I honestly don't feel sorry for her, or bad about what I did, but some of my friends say, while it's acceptable to not want her using my dryer, removing the cord and leaving her wet clothes was too far.

(Sorry for the absurd amount of times you had to read the word dryer in this post)