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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Miserable-C on 2023-09-22 23:08:08.

TL;DR. I didnt give my ungratful neice a 300$ present?

So recently, I (32F) bought a few presents for my neices birthday, which was a few days ago. My neice is 11, and shes been wanting this almost 300$ thing. It was expensive, but I had been saving up for it because I thought she had deserved it. She's been doing good in school and good at home.

Anyways, I got to her party, and I had left the toyhome. It was going to be a surprise i could give her after her party, since I checked with everybody else getting her a gift and nobody was getting what I got. I thought this was a great plan. I bring my little gift bag of a few things she liked (to be specific, a few candy bars and a 20$ gift card) and give it to her when it was time to open the gifts. She opened it, and looked at me in an annoyed way. "This is all you got me? Just candys bars and a goft card?" I was shocked by what she said. I was debating on whether I should give her her other present, but she had been extremely rude, so I decided to hold on.

I pulled her mom aside, and told her I was gonna wait until christmas, or maybe her next birthday to give her the gift because my neice had been rude. She asked me "Why cant you just give it to her now? You already bought it." I told her it was because her daughter was rude, and i didnt feel like giving it to her today. My sister got mad, and told me to leave the party then. I shrugged, and left.

Once I got home, i put the unopened box in my basement. I checked my phone, and my sister had called me an asshole for not giving my neice the car. I responded that her neice was rude, and I didnt feel like giving a rude eleven year old an expensive toy right now. My sister and my mom say i should just give her the toy, and im staying firm. They keep calling me an asshole, and Im starting to think im in the wrong.

So, reddit, AITA?