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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Ok_Translator1301 on 2023-09-25 04:54:41.

My daughter is 23 and she requested dinner with us because she had some important to tell us--being my wife and I.

She introduced us and came out. My wife was emotional gave her a big hug, and told her how proud she was. I on the other hand did not react to her coming out. I honestly did not care about that part. I was honest her partner was cool, and she was very interesting.

My wife told me I was rude for ignoring our daughter's announcement. I told my wife, that I did not care who she was attracted to all I cared about was if she was happy. I tried to explain I did not care about that stuff, people like who they like I don't need labels for that. Love is love.

She said my view is slightly homophobic because it shows I am not acknowledging a different view. I do not see it that way, am I the asshole should I apologize to my daughter and her partner?

Edit: For added context, I did not treat her situation as any different from her brothers. I took the time to get to know the person they were with.

My wife feels I should have treated it differently because they are different situations, ignoring that fact does not help.

Update: Thanks for the input, everyone is right I should have just asked my daughter. I will see if she is free tomorrow for some coffee and have a chat with her. I am sure my wife's words just got to me, but only one way to find out right?

Thanks again.