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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/unusalfrog on 2023-09-25 13:14:31.

My husband and I don't always get to eat out but when we do we split the bills. However when we do eat out he can be controlling and often it's he's decision where we eat and most of the time I don't mind because in the actual moment I can eat what I want there.

However since being married and having kids I have put on weight (I'm still considered slightly underweight by my doc) but ita noticeable that I've put it on. To combat thismy husband has decided that we are gonna eat at a certain restaurant and he was going to decide what I wanted to eat. I told him I wasnt going to pay for my portion of the lunch if it wasn't what I wanted to eat and he shot back that I shouldn't have put on the eight then. 40 minuteslater and we are done and I said I'll meet you in the car and walked out as he started yelling at me about my portion of the lunch that he ordered that I didn't want. The server came over and he paid but came to the car furious that I embarrassed him. I said I said I wouldn't pay and he still ordered anyway. I'm sleeping at my sister's house tonight but was I the AITA?

(EDIT: this isn't just at the restaurant where he is controlling what I can eat, it's a home and shopping issue as well. He comes shopping and decides what I can and can't buy with my portion of the money but I can't decide for him)