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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/ConsciousPush6185 on 2023-09-25 12:41:16.
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My (28m) friend Josh (28m) got married to his partner of 7 years Emily (27f) this past weekend. On the invitation it was stated that a +1 was allowed. I've been single for most of the time but one month ago I got with a girl, Chrissy (28f) who I've known for years. Chrissy used to date Josh on and off in high school and early college until josh broke off things with her and got with Emily. Due to different circumstances, josh doesn't even want to hear about chrissy. I thought that after so many years have passed and we've all matured and grown there would be no issues. He hasn't talked to her in 7 years but I've kept in minimal contact to the point we reconnected as friends few months ago and then we started dating.
Assuming there was no issue since chrissy seemed chill with being invited as my plus one, I brought her. I didn't think I'd have to notify anyone for this.
Emily and josh didn't see her at first but Emily spotted chrissy once the ceremony was over and she froze. I could tell she was mad but was trying to play it cool because of the wedding. I knew there it would be an issue. Before I even arrived at the reception venue josh called me while I was parking and told me what the hell was I thinking and that chrissy needs to go home now. I tried to reason with him saying I can't just send chrissy home because her house is more than an hour drive from the venue. I tried to reason with him explaining how it's been 7 years, if he's mature and really over her he'll be okay with me bringing her. After all he just got married, he can't be mad I brought his ex from over 7 years ago. He started screaming at me about how "IT'S THE PRINCIPLE YOU AH, THE PRINCIPLE. I'M OVER HER OF COURSE THAT DOESN'T MEAN YOU CAN JUST BRING HER AROUND. IT'S THE PRINCIPLE. EMILY IS UPSET BECAUSE OF YOU AND HER.. SEND HER HOME NOW".
I ended up calling chrissy an uber I which I paid for. Chrissy was mad at me for giving up so easily and also thinks I'm a weak ah.