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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Much-Ad-5196 on 2023-10-01 03:30:19.

A little context about what is to come. I don't see a point in marriage if I love and want to be with someone then that's all I need. She wanted it so I eventually proposed with what I believe to be a nice ring 2.5 carat solitare round cut ring. So the fact that she did want marriage but now won't wear her engagement ring is weird to me.

So this has been an issue for me and an almost daily argument. I proposed to my GF on our 4yr anniversary she said she loved the ring and we almost got it stuck on her finger.

After that we had to have it resized twice no big deal and the last time she said it fit great and she loved it. I asked if she was sure at pick up and she confirmed it was good.

Now 5 months after our anniversary she still isn't wearing the ring. Her reason keeps changing from "I don't like to wear rings, I'm not used to wearing rings, I don't want to ruin it at work, I don't want to scratch my face at night, now it's back to it doesn't fit right."

This is really bothering me because I spent a decent chunk on the ring and would like to see her at least wear it. I even bought some silicone rings for her to wear so that she can get used to wearing a ring without all the other worries listed above. However she still isn't wearing them. I keep bringing it up that I expect/would like her to wear a ring. Either silicone or her real one.

I told her if she doesn't start to wear it (never set a date or deadline) then I'm going to sell it and we can use the money for something else. Apparently I'm an asshole being weird and controlling because I want her to wear a ring or at least not let a expensive one sit in a drawer.

EDIT PS: she said I cannot sell her ring because it was a gift to her but still won't wear it. I forgot to add that she does not want me to sell the ring.