Tldr this house was wired funny

Here are some reasons:

1. automatic lights which follow us from bed to the toilet and back with minimal disturbance of each other and which return to pure dark without flipping a switch.

2. A hallway which have terrible switch placement. It has a 4-way switch and it leads to a room with another 3-way. 5 switches which should have been 3 can be consolidated using automation

3. I want automatic motion lights on stairs. Another annoying 3-way to get rid of

4. Kitchen has 9 light switches. I don't want to explain why, but it's not that big

5. TV area where scenes are important/want integratiom with other stuff

6.I want on/off automation on a few interior and all exterior lights for safety/security