Here's my opinion: You say the N word, even as a joke, that's on you. And it'll stick to you like shit on a stick. But it's on me to give people the benefit of the doubt and think charitably of others. I'm not gonna write a person off because they said a slur. I believe people can change and want to see that change in the world. If I didn't then there wouldn't be any incentive for others to change. Fighting bigotry is about building bridges, not tearing them down.