That post explicitly says it's not a place for debate or participation from users of other instances.
I'd like to respect that but I think events like this need debate and discussion because it helps to develop and evolve the culture of lemmy and the fediverse in general.
The post says:
This post is "FYI only" for blahaj lemmy members. It is not a debate, and is not intended for non blahaj lemmy users to weigh in and offer opinions.
I recently received reports of a feddit.uk user espousing transphobia. Specifically, this was a feddit.uk user refusing to use the word cis, repeating the "adult human female" dog whistle, and claiming that trans women are not women. I approached a member of the feddit.uk admin team and raised my concerns and sought clarification of their stance on posts like this, where the transphobia is mostly dogwhistles, and "civil disagreement" on the validity of trans folk.
I was told by the feddit.uk admin that their preferred response is this kind of transphobia is to "sort it out through discussion and voting". However, the comments in question are currently more upvoted than downvoted, and little "sorting out" has occurred. The posts remain in place.
At this point, the admin stopped responding to my messages despite being active elsewhere on lemmy. When it became clear they were ignoring my messages and had no intention of removing the posts in question, I made the decision to defederate the instance.
I know some folk agree with the feddit.uk admins approach of pushback through discussion and voting, but this instance is not designed to be that kind of space. Blahaj lemmy is meant to be a place where we can avoid the rampant transphobia universally visible on nearly every other social media platform, and where we can exist without needing to debate our right to do so.
I'm not commenting on the rest of the situation, but I do want to mention this part.
It takes a lot less effort for me to comment here, off the top of my head, than it does for me to delve into an existing situation to try to determine what admin actions should or should not happen.
Just because I'm not doing your community team/admin thing right now doesn't mean I'm ignoring it forever.
However it shouldn't take a week.
The feddituk admins didn't ignore it, they did answer. They just decided to not do anything, so blahaj defederated in response to protect their users, which is the specific reason for the instance to exist.
One should also note that their approach of "letting it sort out itself" is just admitting that they don't actively moderate the instance, which poses a danger to all federated instances
To be clear, at the time of defederation, they had not answered my question.
In response to my initial general question, I was told their preference is to let push back come via comments and votes.
I then provided links to posts in which someone explicitly stated trans women aren't women alongside several common transphobic dog whistles. I pointed out that one of the posts has more upvotes than downvotes, suggesting that social pushback isn't working, and asked for clarification on whether or not posts like that would be removed.
At this point, I got radio silence. I was not advised the admin team was discussing it, the posts were not removed and the admin who I was talking to was active elsewhere. After waiting nearly two days for a reply despite having mentioned this was serious enough to defederate over on two separate occasions, I made the assumption I wasn't going to get a reply, and defederated.
I'm happy to write that off as miscommunication though, given that they were talking as a team. If they ultimately decide that posts explicitly stating that trans women are not women will be removed, we will refederate