cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/25042034
This post is "FYI only" for blahaj lemmy members. It is not a debate, and is not intended for non blahaj lemmy users to weigh in and offer opinions.
I recently received reports of a feddit.uk user espousing transphobia. Specifically, this was a feddit.uk user refusing to use the word cis, repeating the "adult human female" dog whistle, and claiming that trans women are not women. I approached a member of the feddit.uk admin team and raised my concerns and sought clarification of their stance on posts like this, where the transphobia is mostly dogwhistles, and "civil disagreement" on the validity of trans folk.
I was told by the feddit.uk admin that their preferred response is this kind of transphobia is to "sort it out through discussion and voting". However, the comments in question are currently more upvoted than downvoted, and little "sorting out" has occurred. The posts remain in place.
At this point, the admin stopped responding to my messages despite being active elsewhere on lemmy. When it became clear they were ignoring my messages and had no intention of removing the posts in question, I made the decision to defederate the instance.
I know some folk agree with the feddit.uk admins approach of pushback through discussion and voting, but this instance is not designed to be that kind of space. Blahaj lemmy is meant to be a place where we can avoid the rampant transphobia universally visible on nearly every other social media platform, and where we can exist without needing to debate our right to do so.
"These people"
For crying out loud.
Children *
Boy
That doesn't make it better.
It makes it more smug and condescending.
You picked two words from comment and ignored the thesis...
You expect me to play ball?
No, no, the only thing I expect of you is smugness and condescension. It's pretty much all you ever do.
Seriously, go back through your own user history. Read it like someone else would if they stumbled across you randomly. I'm not saying you have to change, but don't pretend you're not just running around lemmy swinging dick.
Everyone has patterns. We all fall into habits, ways of saying things, word choices. Yours are consistently nasty, even when there's no point to being so.
Thing is, behind all of that nastiness and condescension seems to be a person with some degree of passion. But it's buried so deep that it eventually just becomes tiresome to keep trying to find the human in there. It comes off like you're just trying to fuck with people. If that's your goal, keep at it. If it isn't? Maybe slow down some and consider the outcomes of your choices.