Anyone else join Beehaw (or other queer spaces) out of a feeling of wanting to belong, before even realizing you were queer? (beehaw.org)

submitted 1 week ago by Hexarei@beehaw.org to c/lgbtq_plus@beehaw.org

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I dunno if this is the right place for this, but I was curious. I joined Beehaw during the Great Reddit API migration, a few years ago at this point. I couldn't put a finger on why but I wanted to join a queer-friendly space. It just seemed like a good place to be, somewhere that seemed to have goals of inclusivity and being kind to one another that I thought sounded good. I wanted to belong somewhere like this place seems to want to be.

Then, years later, in Nov of 2024 my egg absolutely shattered and I came out to myself as trans. Then I just realized this morning that the timeline is kinda funny to me. Thought I'd ask and see how common that pattern was.

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[-] Hexarei@beehaw.org 3 points 1 week ago

It's insane the ways we can be positively impacted by terrible circumstances. I'm glad to hear things are looking up, and that you're surrounded by better people now! One of the best parts of discovering myself has been having a safe space at home with my partner, who had already been exploring some genderqueer conversations and topics. I can't imagine how much harder it would have been without them and their support through all of this, much less being in a rough situation instead.

It really is cool how unjudgy queer spaces are, with the knowledge you won't be held up to some standard and deemed worthy or unworthy of someone's presence just based on whether you meet standards you had no part in choosing. Thanks for sharing!