i mean, there is a shitload of social shame boiled into not having sex. it's not about the sex so much as thinking if they bone the shame will go away.

as a dude, the #1 insult most anyone goes to is 'you can't get laid', or 'you are gay' if you reject a woman. as if getting laid all the time is something all dudes must aspire to and they are sexually flawed if they reject sex.

again, i'm a big gay, but my sexual interest in a woman is mostly tied to if i have a emotional connection with her. casual sex bores the shit out of me and i'd rather masturbate than bone a lady if i am not legit into her as a person.