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submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by DudePluto@lemm.ee to c/casualconversation@lemmy.world

Not talking about being with one partner at a time. Talking about the idea of finding "the one" and being with them your whole life.

50% divorce rate. 97% of people (in the US) don't wait till marriage, so most of us have multiple sexual partners prior to the one we stick with. Many have children with more than one partner.

How can anyone look at the world and think, yeah, there's one that's meant for everyone and just one?

Also hope I don't come across disrespectful. If you do believe in monogamy, I am interested in hearing from you. I'm just buzzed and thinking about my own love life and being curt

Edit: Speaking to the idea that it's the "natural order" or default. Not that it can't work in individual circumstances, especially when we've been programmed for decades

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[-] anewbeginning@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

Divorce rates relate new marriages and divorces. In Portugal divorces have increased but even more importantly, new marriages have dropped a lot. That is the cause of the high divorce rate.

As to why people get divorce I’d venture a guess of economic reasons. Portuguese are quite poor, particularly in the European context, and life has gotten even harsher this last decade. That breaks a lot of people.

Natality rates are also low. Fewer babies, fewer reasons to stick together.

Still, as I said, there’s no reason to be cynical about monogamy, love and marriage. Many people make it work very well.

[-] imaqtpie@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 year ago

I see. The prolonged harsh economic conditions do make a lot of sense as a reason.

Still, as I said, there’s no reason to be cynical about monogamy, love and marriage. Many people make it work very well.

You're preaching to the choir, my friend. I totally agree.

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