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Finding people who vibe with you is so hard
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A "Showerthought" is a simple term used to describe the thoughts that pop into your head while you're doing everyday things like taking a shower, driving, or just daydreaming. The most popular seem to be lighthearted clever little truths, hidden in daily life.
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- Both “200” and “160” are 2 minutes in microwave math
- When you’re a kid, you don’t realize you’re also watching your mom and dad grow up.
- More dreams have been destroyed by alarm clocks than anything else
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Yeah, and even among your people there may be some measure of discomfort.
I really miss how friendships and socializing used to be before social media.
Yeah, I agree it's really social media shit.
I had no problems socializing 10-20 years ago. Now it's incredibly difficult because people don't really want to socialize anymore so much as be validated incessantly. It's warped people's brains to think any minor discomfort is this horrible thing, and anyone who disagrees with you is a raging asshole.
In my college days I used to like being around people who disagreed with me and talking about those disagreements. That is how I made most of my friends Now that is all but impossible. The second you disagree now, no matter how trivial, people demonize you and start saying crazy over the top conclusions about how evil and awful you are. I used to like my friends because they were different than me... now people hate anything different than themselves.
Literally, I've had many of my dates the past few years scream at me what a racist piece of shit I am for the books I read, and also for the books I don't read. Mostly because I read classics and to people's mind anyone author born before 1970 is a racist piece of shit or something. I do not understand how people have normalized this insanity. I am still reading the same books I have always read for decades... but now instead of being viewed as a positive it's viewed with straight up delusional hostility. Apparently reading Dostoevsky makes me a conservative Pro-Putin, anti lgbt, racist now...
It's true.
I'm lucky to have a lot of friends via the roller derby community, but I'm a white man in a largely liberal and activist community, so my mantra whenever any controversial topic comes up is: "I don't feel it's my place to speak on that" or "I don't know enough to have an opinion on that". (Which in a lot of cases is probably true.)
Those friends end up being surface-level in a lot of ways because I love the sport and can't risk accidentally saying something that offends someone and risk losing my access to it, because if you say the wrong thing, malice is always assumed and there's simply no grace given for error.