You are at a steak house and the Asian partner gets the steak pre-cut and served with chopsticks. Yeah, I'd guess that would be rather unpleasant.
On the other hand, I really dislike using chopsticks even though I can use them. But the Asian restaurants over here all just give you chopsticks by default (no matter what you look like) and I always have to ask for fork and knife, and that's also kinda annoying. I guess, the restaurants have to make some kind of assumption if they don't want to serve double the amount of cutlery, and no matter what assumption they make it will be wrong in about 50% of the cases.
Yeah, it's kinda annoying at most, and I usually take it as them just trying to accommodate to my needs. I'm not necessarily disagreeing with OP, but more with his ex's reaction. "Blatant racism?" C'mon.
Trying to construct a reverse situation:
You are at a steak house and the Asian partner gets the steak pre-cut and served with chopsticks. Yeah, I'd guess that would be rather unpleasant.
On the other hand, I really dislike using chopsticks even though I can use them. But the Asian restaurants over here all just give you chopsticks by default (no matter what you look like) and I always have to ask for fork and knife, and that's also kinda annoying. I guess, the restaurants have to make some kind of assumption if they don't want to serve double the amount of cutlery, and no matter what assumption they make it will be wrong in about 50% of the cases.
Yeah, it's kinda annoying at most, and I usually take it as them just trying to accommodate to my needs. I'm not necessarily disagreeing with OP, but more with his ex's reaction. "Blatant racism?" C'mon.