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MeanwhileOnGrad

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Meanwhile On Grad
Documenting hate speech, conspiracy theories, apologia/revisionism, and general tankie behaviour across the fediverse. Memes are welcome!
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Because the same core devs of Lemmy are the same ones who host the ml and grad instances, so by supporting their platform in any way, you are helping them keeping relevance, even worse those who donate to the devs.
Also... you are in a post about the lemmy dev and ml host/admin spreading missinformation, in a community filled with posts from their abuses... what else do you need to consider supporting their software is a bad thing to do? Or that they are a bad crowd?
Those are good points, thank you very much. I just never connected the dots from Lemmy devs to admins - in my mind they were completely disconnected.
From a cursory check, it seems like piefed is at a good enough place to just switch over - would you say that's a place worth supporting? Or would I just jump from the frying pan into the fire?
Again, I truly appreciate your taking the time to share your experience!
So far so good with Piefed, I specially like the blocking capabilities that are miles ahead of lemmy (since lemmy devs does not want you completely blocking their shit).
I use it from web so I can't speak about the apps.
And this being my fourth account I can say you should think of your fediverse accounts as disposables since hosts might leave, admins might go crazy or devs might abandon a project.
Always be ready to jump ship and don't swear loyalty.