379
I think the statement "people will put up with many things if you are excellent at math" is incredibly revealing
you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments
view the rest of the comments
this post was submitted on 05 Jan 2026
379 points (97.0% liked)
People Twitter
9495 readers
267 users here now
People tweeting stuff. We allow tweets from anyone.
RULES:
- Mark NSFW content.
- No doxxing people.
- Must be a pic of the tweet or similar. No direct links to the tweet.
- No bullying or international politcs
- Be excellent to each other.
- Provide an archived link to the tweet (or similar) being shown if it's a major figure or a politician. Archive.is the best way.
founded 2 years ago
MODERATORS
I imagine that's a joke, but that's being overly gracious to lemmys collective intellect and insulting to lemmys collective interpersonal skills. Most people I interact with on Lemmy are nice, if not at least cordial, and I don't think being tech savvy equates to the kind of skill I'm attributing to that guy. Unfortunately, knowing what Linux is doesn't actually make you intelligent, despite what even I sometimes like to believe.
We aren't talking about being nice. We're talking about lacking social skills. And I would argue that "autistic nerd who has pegged their social worth to being good at something" is a good proxy for the average lemmy user. And linux user.
We're talking about something deeper than lacking social skills, "That guy" isn't the autistic coworker who blanks out when you attempt small talk. They're the coworker who toes the line of sexual harassment, or who calls their coworkers idiots. It's the person who hears someone brought doughnuts and rushes to eat twice their fair share. A common variant is the person who needs to constantly assert that they're the smartest person in the room, not just by hyping themselves up, but by putting others down. Maybe they eat incredibly pungent food at their desk while others are working. They may repeatedly bring up divisive politics in front of coworkers they know disagree with them.
Yeah I had a job with two of them for a while. Meanwhile my boss was probably autistic and possibly my personally favorite boss I've ever had. Didn't know much about him, but he was always happy to help whoever needed it and treated his subordinates with respect and kindness.
And yeah lemmy has a fair handful of them, but also the internet encourages bad behavior
I don't know the person you were picturing, but me and at least a handful of other people were not talking about autistic people who happen to be nerdy. In my opinion, regularly making people cry in a workplace setting is lacking social skills. Based on just the OP, I imagine that teacher is not sending this home because the son is exhibiting signs of autism, he's probably being a prick, which I'd say most kids are by default, but it's a parents job to help them mature out of that phase. I generally have not experienced any issues working with people on the spectrum, certainly none that would elicit tears, which I think is an ok proxy for some social skills. Obviously, we can have just been thinking of different people, but I have not had many issues on Lemmy and I didn't want people to come away with the impression that Lemmy is 2/3rds hostile or has issues communicating. Most people are pretty nice. Someone even gave me a soup recipe!
I think you and most other people in this thread are making an unfounded leap about what was written in that report card, based on the politics of OOP. But OOP says it was a report card - which is a normal, regular thing to send home with a child. There is no indication the child was sent home early, or that what was written was any kind of repremand. No where does it say that OOP's child made anyone cry.
Presumably, this is an expensive preschool for the children of silicon valley elites, who want their children to recieve an education that will prepare them to be extremely high earners and leaders in industry. These sorts of people typically do acknowledge the large component that being socially aware plays in one's success, and the preschool is likely offering updates and help on social/emotional development as part of their service, since it is something that the parents want. If OOP's child was making other children cry, this info would probably be brought to the parents immediately, since regardless of how wealthy and high status they are, all the other parents are also wealthy and high status and would raise a stink about their kids getting bullied. Otoh, "your kid avoids eye contact and never plays with other kids, just does math and plays with legos alone" would be a fairly normal thing to discuss in the social-emotional development section of a report card.
Similarly, I never said lemmings arent nice. But I would bet that if you gathered a bunch of them together, they would stand around nervously for 45 minutes and just listen to 3 people talk who happened to stumble upon a shared special interest.
I don't presume to know what was on the card, but the cry comment was in reference to an anecdote shared elsewhere in the comments that I thought was in the thread with you. My apologies for that confusion. Overall, I am pretty sure if the kid was exhibiting signs of autism that's probably something you call the parents about and not just note on the report card, whereas just being a prick, which plenty of kids are, is not really parent teacher conference worthy, but still worth mentioning somewhere. Either way, I hope the kid gets assistance if he needs it.
Consider this: Many lemmy users who act like assholes get banned. But face-to-face interactions don't have a paper trail.