Andrew Carnegie’s great manual of professional sociopathy (How to Win Friends). This one is great but it incessantly tries to convince the reader that we can achieve social change by collectively being more true to ourselves without proper organization.

"Professional sociopathy” is exactly correct, and I refuse to read it beyond the first chapter I already read, decades ago. It teaches how to be fake af, and that's the problem. It teaches how to be true to our basest instincts (ID) and not to the better parts of ourselves, which leads to misery for self and others. That's why rich sociopaths are never beyond superficially happy, without ever having found the satisfaction of striving to be our best selves, the true selves that long to be free, and it's exactly why the world is a mess.

Frankly you have to invert much of the advice and use it to mask even harder, but I don’t hold it against the author, since that is what all NGO activism for minority groups is oriented towards.

For all the righteous hate Jung gets, he is bang on in his theory of archetypes (at least for those of us who spent primary socialization and beyond), and shadow. And shadow work is the only thing that has managed to lead me near approximation of my better self, the self that longs for liberation from the prison of my most base instinctive drives. US culture teaches us immediate gratification is desirable, but it's superficial, and fleeting. Delayed gratification requires hard work and patience, and not least of all maintenance. But the rewards last, as long as we do the work.

Your results may vary, since I'm not familiar with your upbringing or culture. I wish I had something more substantial to offer you.