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"imagine what the next thing will be".
Be happy/excited for them they've taken a small step out from under the shadow of ignorance and into the light of knowledge. You helped them do that.
Sometimes it's like ripping off a plaster. A brief discomfort for the greater good.
not all, but many NTs tend to see that (post-"victory" happiness) as smugness or gloating, etc.
it's not wrong to enjoy or to be optimistic for the other person, but they may sometimes feel that they've been defeated and which is often considered intrinsically a bad thing, or as a type of unwarranted aggression. so positivity after that can be interpreted as bad manners, cruelty, rudeness, any number of negative things.
all I'm saying is, it pays to proceed cautiously if you value the relationship.
Indeed. It's specific to the situation, every time
Oh that's good I just stare at people. Is that good?
a lot of NTs are uncomfortable with being stared at. it's not always bad, but it helps if there's context for them to interpret the staring. some NTs (also NDs) may jump to a conclusion that you are thinking negative thoughts about them when staring silently.
it can be beneficial to look away, at least intermittently. one continuous 3s stare can be worse than 2 separate 2s stares.
these are not strict rules though. it should be adjusted to the context of the situation and the preexisting relationship (if it did exist).