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The entire "different time" excuse is meant to apply to media, not people! Most texts written in the 1700s that include references to people of color are probably going to at least use outdated language, if not straight up racist perspectives, but because it was a different time you're supposed to acknowledge that it can still impart valuable ideas so long as you take it in context. Taking that scholarly technique and trying to apply it to ~~crotchety assholes~~ real people spouting hate makes me want to explode
seizes excuse with all paws and extra-bitey jaws Oh, oh, is it time to talk about "crazy" and "insane" and "dude" and "guy" and "bro?" And apparently we also still have to mention that the r-slur and "ree" are ableist shit too?
...Am seriously fed up with people who seem to know very few words and all of them inappropriate. And yes, treating everyone like a male buddy is inappropriate. And yes, "crazy" still clearly has its association with mental illness. While many people obviously think it means literally anything at any time in any context they also still call people that as a way of suggesting a person's got mental problems.
I expect I'll get trolled for this (as always, 'cause people absolutely cannot stand being asked to change or even consider their own behaviour) but I'm sick of how bad this place is about gendered language and slurs in particular, to the point where I assume somecritter I otherwise respect is gonna misgender me and I'll just immediately delete my account and be done with this place altogether.
Anyway, that's my lil tiny rant about some of the lack of care I see floating around, which reminds me to point out that it's not the words that cause problems (outside of straight-up slurs, anyway) but rather how they're used. Some seem to think there's some constantly-changing list of banned words but "don't call me that" means "don't call me that," not "you're going to gaol for not having the latest word list."
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Thank. You.
It's really irritating to see such language anywhere, but especially in ostensibly progressive spaces. I'm trying to change my language (never used the r-slur, but I've used "crazy" so much that ... I try not to, really). And I see male-centric language all over the place. It's unfortunately ubiquitous where I live.
The one that never sits right with me where I live is "guys." The counter-argument is that it is no longer gendered, but after educating myself more on the nature of casual sexism, I think it's actually an example of how male is perceived as the default, the norm. I don't think anyone is deliberately trying to be sexist by using it, but claiming that "guys" is gender neutral really seems to be a male-centric perspective.
I used to have an account on raddle, and I also learned a lot from them about why ableist language is harmful. I'm working on it, but it's almost like I need a buddy to help call me out when I lapse and say something like "idiot" or "crazy." And the frustrating thing is, as someone with mental illness, I feel like I should know better.
The one positive thing I took away from living in the south was the gender-neutral "y'all."
For those who don't know, "y'all" refers to a small group of people and "all y'all" refers to a larger group of people.
I like to play with words and create colourful, cutesy terms. Probably my favourite for this purpose is "critter" :3 Everycritter, anycritter, you critters, those critters. ... Of course if that stops being weird I'll have to come up with a new one. Hmm. I suppose I must mandate that only the cutest critters use this particular term >:P
Also, it's nice to see I'm not totally alone in caring about these things. Though some common themes around here (such as the problematic careless word choice issues referenced above) are quite upsetting I at least manage to say some things like this that typically get me attacked. ... Though maybe it's just because I only say them three-plus layers down a comment tree nocritter's gonna see. 🤷♀
This is completely a tangent but Walk on the Wild Side by Lou Reed is a good example of media that is “of it’s time” but had good intentions. He uses a lot of outdated terminology for trans people, but he was dating and living with a trans woman at the time. As well, he uses the term “coloured girls” for his backup singers. But that’s because he was drawing attention to them. He paid his singers proper wages which was a big deal at the time, and was drawing attention to their presence in music in a subversive way.
Yes, louder!
Someone elsewhere in this thread is suggesting that we're all obstinate and inherently resistant to change, but ... I can't relate.
The ability to learn from our missteps and prejudices, and subsequently change and grow, is a hallmark of being human. It's not about education, either. I've known people who only went through grade 3 who are not so destructively stubborn. It doesn't seem like any way to live to tear other people down because I encounter something new to me.
They’re lying about my position for no discernible reason aside from poor comprehension. I’d recommend you read what I actually wrote.
No I didn’t? What? I was referring to people with bigoted beliefs and cited a real psychological phenomenon. Don’t lie about what I said for validation.
The subject of your post was tangentially about correcting bigots so that’s what I’m talking about.