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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/ChemicalAd2047 on 2023-09-03 09:17:09.
So I (30m) and my husband (34m) just got married a week ago. We were having a good wedding until the speeches happened. Now i thought it was common sense to not do this, but during the best man's speech he decided to propose to his girlfriend. She said yes and all hell broke loose.
From that point on, no one paid attention to me or my husband nor paid attention to the event times. People starting eating early, the speeches were cut short after he proposed, on top of that he got the dj to play him and his girlfriend "their song". Which incited a whole bunch of couples to do the same. For about 3 hours it was just couples running to the dj to play "their song" and hogging the dance floor. When me and my husband finally got a chance to dance people were to exhausted and didn't pay attention, they instead went to eat.
After several hours of this, i told my husband I didn't really want to be here anymore, and he agreed. We ended up leaving, the only person we said goodbye to was our parents. Nobody even noticed we had left.
Now here's the problem. 3 days after the wedding a cousin of mine had asked me when did i leave my wedding, as she never got to say goodbye. I told her we left early because nobody was paying attention nor cared enough to. She said ok and hanged up. Now we've been getting calls from all our relatives telling us we're immature and need to lighten up. That we should be happy our wedding made people this romantic.
So AITA?
You should have bit your lip and said the appropriate goodbyes, but leaving early was probably the best choice.
It was your day, not theirs. It was completely inappropriate for what happened. But it happened all the same, so using decorum to your advantage would have allowed you to escape without having to explain yourself as much as you had to.