As a dev myself, I fully agree.

But that also illustrates why simply demanding that the existing devs should prioritize your personal needs over whatever it is they're working on is kind of a non-starter. If it's too hard for you to become a dev on the project but they've put in the effort to do so, they get to use that hard-won ability however they see fit.

Is there some sort of bug bounty or feature bounty program for Lemmy or kbin? That might be a way that a non-dev could get their own needs prioritized, perhaps.