My wife is in the same club. Family history of lupus, all of the symptoms of lupus, several health conditions that are usually caused by an autoimmune disease, but the ANA panel was negative so it can't be lupus.

Luckily I've convinced her to actually go to a clinic that exists to diagnose hard to diagnose autoimmune diseases.

It doesn't help that she's a soft spoken petite woman, either. I have to go to doctors appointments with her for them to actually take her seriously.