I've seen no evidence of "It has been proven again and again in states which have passed magazine restrictions. Deaths and injuries from such events drop significantly." Actually what I have seen is that the '94-'04 AWB (during which you had your way) wasn't linked to any of that at all, in fact studies showed there was no meaningful impact on gun violence from the AWB. Not only that but the Columbine shooting took place during that, with banned weapons. Also, the VT shooter (which was the deadliest for a long time) used only 10rnd magazines and changed magazines a whopping 17 times. Same with the '91 Luby's Diner shooting, mag changes were not an issue for any of these people, the law is ineffective at targeting its supposed targets favoring instead to target those who actually are using it in self defense (or, since you don't agree with that since you say "if you need 11 rnds, that's so rare you deserve to die," the law targets nobody and is completely pointless.)

For every abusive ex that uses a gun to save themselves or their child, there are multiples more who are injured or killed by their violent ex

Not all family annhialators use firearms, listening to a podcast right now about a guy who had a fight with his wife, went out and grabbed a 2x4 and an ice pick, beat her to death with it, and then killed his two kids, the child with the wood and the baby with the Ice pick. Then he stabbed himself (barely) and tried to pass it off as related to the then-recent LaBianca murders. So, seemingly, guns aren't necessary at all for that, however with the disparity in force between most couples it could be a real boon for the defender. Would a shot or two have been sufficient to make him flee? Maybe, fight or flight doesn't work how you think it does, but he already knows his wife is going to report him for attempted murder if he doesn't "win" this fight, so what does he have to lose? Assuming fight or flight did work how you think (it's a reflex, but if we're ignoring that and claiming they "will definitely run,") I claim that knowing all is already lost will push them towards "fight" rather than "flight."

Btw "violent partners" as in "those convicted of domestic violence" are already barred from gun ownership by federal law. Yes, somehow Vermont has decided it doesn't apply to them, but it's still federally illegal, I guess it is like legal states and weed. Still though, already a law.

The second it takes to reload might not seem like much until you are the one being shot at and it gives you a second to escape.

Again, may I referrence the VT shooter's 17 reloads, the Luby's Shooter's at least 3 reloads, etc. Maybe. Typically not though, I think you have a fundamental misunderstanding about how long it takes to slap in a new magazine, I'm gonna try to find you a video in which someone does it real fast..

Ok I'm back. Best I could find was this instructional video (hope that time code worked, the part is at the end.) I was looking for one that wasn't "worlds fastest reload zomg guys so cool" because I wanted one that was more "normal," this about suffices, if the shooter practices (and you can practice reloads at home in your room) it takes about one of these videos and a week if you're mentally deficient to learn how to do it as quick as he did in the video. That might allow someone to escape, all things are possible, but it's not likely.