Strange, I've had the opposite experience. I remember early on 11 was really bad and buggy in general so I waited to move my main install, but it's been fantastic for me on laptop and desktop.

Granted, I'm very particular about my Windows installs and know how to clean everything up pretty well, so I have no idea how out of box experience compares, but at least with how I use it, 11 has been fantastic, performance has been much more consistent, I don't need to reboot as often, and it lasted way longer before I felt the need for a fresh install than any of my 10 installations.

I still have certain things I'm not able to entirely fix that bug me (still searching for a way to remove the stupid Office 365 ad from the settings homepage) that weren't in Windows 10, but the settings in 11 are overall SO much better, window snapping is way better, explorer is way better, HDR support is way better, multi-monitor support is better, default apps in general are better, it's becoming easier to remove built-in apps you don't want, and just a whole bunch of small QOL changes and updated, more consistent styling, it's just a much nicer OS to use at this point.

If you haven't tried it yet, Tiny11 23H2 just came out, and while there's still some stuff I fixed after installation, it does an excellent job of trimming most of the fat off Win11 without sacrificing usability. You can use Windows update like normal (and you'll have to update after install) but it may be worth another try if you haven't tried 11 recently. IMO it's a really nice upgrade over 10 if you can fix all the little annoyances like the new right-click and such. (BloatyNosy on GitHub is what I use post-install, in addition to a few powershell commands and such)