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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/ImportantRevenue9493 on 2023-10-02 03:12:26.
My cousin J. got pregnant when she was 19. She was out of high school and lived with our grandparents. It was not a good time for her.
Her half brother and I were both in grade twelve and we had jobs. We decided to help her out. Of our own free will. No one asked us to or asked is for money. We just love her and knew she needed support. She had a girl named Calli. We helped buy diapers and formula. We babysat so J. could work and go out every once in a while.
J. Met a nice guy and married him two years ago. He has two kids from a previous relationship that he gets on the weekends.
Calli is 12 now and I still hang out with her.
Lately J. has been asking me to take out her stepkids when I take Calli out. I told her no. I don't really know those kids and I don't really want to be responsible for them. I like spoiling my little cousin but that's it. She has been great practice for when I have kids. Plus I love being a bad influence on her. I just took her skeet shooting and we are going to an ax throwing place where you can also use knives or throwing stars.
J. says that I'm creating a schism between her kids because Calli comes back from hanging out with me and the other kids get jealous. She says I should take all the kids or stop doing stuff with Calli. Calli heard her and she may have picked up some language from me because she was very vocal about her displeasure.
My mom thinks I should take the kids. I said I would if she would come keep an eye on them around the axes, knives and throwing stars. She said we could take the kids to a bouncy play area. I said she could take the kids there while Calli and I did our thing and we could catch up after. She said I was missing the point. I don't think I need to include those kids.
so wait, the dude only gets his kids on the weekends, and now Calli wants you to take them off her hands?
fuck noooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo
NTA