A lot of it is also the instance you are on. Having my account on Lemmy.world I do not have to deal with hexbear for example. They don't have downvotes on their instance and have a totally different culture from the other instances.

Also, know that a lot of people that ended up on Lemmy are actually the banned rejects from reddit. And maybe seeing they don't get their "free speech" here either is what made them not believe in the platform.

I have very much been enjoying my time here, most people have been wonderful.