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She's almost 70, spend all day watching q-anon style of videos (but in Spanish) and every day she's anguished about something new, last week was asking us to start digging a nuclear shelter because Russia was dropped a nuclear bomb over Ukraine. Before that she was begging us to install reinforced doors because the indigenous population were about to invade the cities and kill everyone with poisonous arrows. I have access to her YouTube account and I'm trying to unsubscribe and report the videos, but the reccomended videos keep feeding her more crazy shit.

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[-] driving_crooner@lemmy.eco.br 11 points 1 year ago

My sister always mocked her and starts to fight her about how she has always been wrong before and she just get defensive and has not worked so far, except for further damage their relationship.

[-] MargotRobbie@lemmy.world 8 points 1 year ago

No, don't mock her, that's the last thing you should do, don't be emotional, be calm and ask her if she want to take the easy money if she is so sure about these things, it has to be provable, objective events where there is no wiggle room, like the natives with arrows for example.

Cults will always want to isolate their perspective members from their current support groups. Don't let them do that past the point of no return.

[-] merc@sh.itjust.works 8 points 1 year ago

See if you can convince her to write down her predictions in a calendar, like "by this date X will have happened".

You can tell her that she can use that to prove to her doubters that she was right and she called it months ago, and that people should listen to her. If somehow she's wrong, it can be a way to show that all the things that freaked her out months ago never happened and she isn't even thinking about them anymore because she's freaked out about the latest issue.

[-] driving_crooner@lemmy.eco.br 5 points 1 year ago

Going to ask my sister to do this, it can be good for both of them.

[-] KevonLooney@lemm.ee 8 points 1 year ago

It's not going to work.

You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into. You have to use positive emotion to counteract the negative emotion. Literally just changing the subject to something like "Remember when we went to the beach? That was fun!" Positive emotions and memories of times before the cult brainwashing can work.

[-] merc@sh.itjust.works 4 points 1 year ago

The good part about it is that once she writes her predictions down (or maybe both of them do), they can maybe move on, and talk about something other than the conspiracies.

Assuming all the predictions are wrong, especially if your mom forgot how worked up she was about them months ago but completely forgot about them after that, it can be a good way to talk about how they're manipulating her emotions.

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