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TL;DR, Big anxiety when job hunting, advice?
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this post was submitted on 14 Jun 2023
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What has worked for me and may or may not help you (also lived in Sweden) is that I write down questions to ask and I go through them multiple times. I also write down questions I think they will ask and then answer them in a very thoughtful way so I can later deliver them in a shorter version but till get a across what I want. I also bring the notebook with me so I can read them at the interview or take notes. Taking notes are great if they have a multiple stages kind of interviews.
Also I put myself in the mind set of "this interview is for me and them to get to know each other and get a feeling if this is for me". That kinda removes a lot of the stress. I am there for me and my self and here to interview them as much as they are there to interview me. Also many first check the personality, my current job told me later that after the interview they ask everyone "would I like to hang out with this person". Many good bosses have said "personality can't or is hard to change and knowledge and experience is something you can easily obtain".
So you should also try to see if the workplace you try to be hired as is even a nice place for you to be at. I have so far liked small companies the best with 20 to 50 employees.
I have been on the other side of the table to (not in the room but helped my coworkers and asked them questions about the interview afterwards) and a lot of them are just as nervous or unprepared as the one seeking the job.
My dad told me that he thinks like this when he is holding a meeting for higher ups "they all shit in the same bathroom as me today". I don't know if that helps but it is kinda the same things as I what I tried to say above. Good luck! :D
God morgon ๐
I often get this feeling that if I don't get this job I'm gonna end up homeless and die. So it's practically life or death. Which is not true of course.
I've tried the notebook thing before, (it didn't go well as I didn't write fast enough) but maybe I should give it a go again! The only times I've asked the interviewer questions back have been to requesting companies and they seem to have very little knowledge about the company they work for.
Maybe a part of my job hunting is bad luck? That and just nervousness/anxiety.
That is so true but I have a really hard time relaxing at an interview, I think next time I might ask to have at least part of the interview in another setting than their office. I think the context might make me extra nervous. After my autism diagnosis, I've learned I'm probably very understimulated during interviews.
I'll try to keep this in mind, I'm in a new chapter of my life, and things will be different.
Smaller companies often seem to be more cozy than big ones, I agree.
I got a feeling that you might be a developer so I did check your other comments on Lemmy and saw that you're working fullstack. I just graduated as a frontend dev at a 'YH-utbildning'.
Thank you for your insights!
I do have a LinkedIn account and I already have about 70 contacts, and I try to stay active and comment when I see fit, all to get seen. I also do this thing where I visit the profile of a bunch of people in a company after sending an application in hopes of them seeing the connection, and small things like that.
Academic Work is on my list of websites to update, so I'll give it some extra time to see if the same support is available. Thanks!
I'm not good at writing and listening at the same time ๐
I'm not in Stockholm unfortunately, I'm in a fairly small place called Arvika in Vรคrmland. I think Oslo is a bit closer than Stockholm haha
I'm open to moving tho, but I'm not sure how to get a decent apartment in or close to Stockholm, I have a partner and two cats so I can't take just anything
Thank you! I've build my ways over the years to keep track of everything ๐
We have like 3 companies with developers (Tickster is among them, kinda cool) but there are a lot more companies in Karlstad, it's tiny compared to Stockholm but it's still a fairly big city. A few years back I counted to around 40 companies of interest.
30min commuting distance isn't bad at all! How is it to actually get an apartment? I've heard there are long waitinglists and you'll rent in 3rd or event 4th or 5th hand. Sometimes short periods a time jumping from apartment to apartment?
I'm one of those who really like to go to the office, I like to go every day. I feel like I'm going to go crazy if I'm home to much ๐
ooh I see, I never knew it was easier to buy, and it can't be hard to sell in such a big city, right? So that won't be a huge risk.
I should check if I can get a loan for an apartment and how that works.
ooh I see, well if I move to Stockholm or Gothenburg it will probably be pretty fast as it's for a job unless I can work from home the first month or so. I will look into HSB too, I have a list with housing queues too. I like lists..
Smart to trade apartments! You know a lot about this.
ahaha omg maybe that's a bit too much even for me! It must be hard to concentrate in that environment!
Yeah I can imagen that is hard, combined with a reasonable price. I haven't had a car in years and it's actually pretty nice as it's easy to rent one when I need a car. There are two things I do miss, the spontaneous part of owning a car, I can just go if I want to, and I miss being able to do weekly or monthly grocery shopping.
I do like to rent as if something breaks it's not my responsibility, but I also never had a lot of money so I can't just buy a new stove if it breaks or so. It might be a question about money..
ooh that makes me think of those work towns in America, companies own whole towns, so in order to live there you or the person you live with will have to work at that company.
I love scrolling through Hemnet, so many pretty homes, and some are really unique. Love it.
Hahaha yes, it's really nice to get stuff to the door! Speaking of that, I need to order "litter pellets" for my cats.
It's good to be able to tho, nice for longer trips or if you need to go to the veterinary or stuff like that. I can imagine, I've driven on the outskirts of Gothenburg and a couple of times in Oslo. It's a whole other thing than driving in smaller towns.
White is soooo boring tho. I mean, I understand why people light bright walls, but why not go for pastels or something? Or accent walls, I like accent walls.
It's not a lot of work, often you just scoop out the poop, similar to how you scoop a litterbox while the pee crumbles and falls to the bottom (you practically use two stacked boxes with holes in the top one), I clean my litterbox once a day and then empties the bottom part every 2-3 days. I sometimes wipe the bottom with baby wipes (great for cleaning). I have two cats.
My cats didn't really like it but after mixing it in with the sand for weeks I went cold turkey and just replaced the sand with pellets and that went fine, I have a pretty thick layer, around 10cm that they dig around in.
Wow, that is really not meant to have cars. That sucks.
woah, that does sound unsettling with everything in white, it's worse than a hospital!
I've always been a bit confused about that, having emergency stuff in white. But it's still easy to see?
I have a small fire extinguisher that stands in the hallway.
Wood is nice in so many ways, it's always unique, durable, and pretty colors. I want as much wood as possible haha
Wow, all of those walls are so beautiful!, e-ink is really starting to be well developed with clear colors pretty much like a photo, and that could easily be used as a picture frame or accent wall and it won't use electricity at all.
I agree, my home is my sanctuary.
I think it's okay we went of topic a bit ๐
EDIT: I forgot to check the pellets vs clay link and it seems correct. I'd say the pellets are cheaper, sure a bag of pellets costs around 100kr but I need a new one every 3 months or so.
You would want a litterbox like this for easier cleaning and protip; but an old newspaper in the bottom.
ooh I understand! Cats are weird ๐ I mean, maybe you better stick to that litterbox, or maybe you could buy another one and drill holes in it?
wow yeah it blends in well but it's also fairly visible due to the completely different texture (shiny against dull) and placed well. Nice!
Mine is standing on the floor! ๐
What hahah, it's not like it have to be in the hallway. It should be placed where it's easy to reach. I currently have mine on the floor in the guest room. The guestroom is right next to the entrance, but still.
Sounds nice tho! My home is a complete mess with all shades of white/gray/black and multiple kinds of wood. It feels quite cluttered and we have a lot of stuff as well so that doesn't help.
Have you seen those wrappings you can use on furniture? It's apparently called 'dekorplast' or 'mรถbelfolie'. Bauhaus has some. It's pretty cool how much you can change with that!
I think I type a bit faster on the computer as well but I find it easier to take paper notes while listening ๐คท And also if the notes aren't linear I prefer paper so I can draw arrows and stuff.
I have recently started using Obsidian and that program really helps me focus on the notes and not how it looks. I previously used Notion, wich is also great but if you go over a certain amount of GB you'll have to pay.
Your cat pees weirdly, hahah
Wow, that's a big difference on the speakers. what. Good job doing it!
What do u think of obsidian?
Sorry for answering so slow, wanna chat somewhere else where we can get a notification on our phone?
Thanks :D
I haven't used it much to say, but so far is it nice. It is a lot better than notpad++ and vscode. Both wasn't really meant to be used for note taking but that is what I used haha
No worries :D Sure thing, discord?
Discord it is! my username is
coffeetails, surprised? ๐Now did I not get a notification, your message was seen as read even tho I never saw it. I sent a request, my username is Kuma and my old number tag (how they made usernames before) ๐