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is anyone else tired of heteronormativity? (beehaw.org)

submitted 1 year ago by sleepybisexual@beehaw.org to c/lgbtq_plus@beehaw.org

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I kimd of am, why are so many relationships in media strsight? We need more lgbt representation

This is dumb and I'm probably getting offended for no reason but here's a small experience I dealt with recently

So like 30 minutes ago my grandmother wanted me to smile so she told me to think of a pretty girl and while I didn't react at all my first thought was literally "why not pretty boys" Its silly I know.

I'm not out but I literally couldn't be leaving anymore hints that I'm bi. Its funny how nobody noticed yet

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[-] Nanokindled@beehaw.org 10 points 1 year ago

95% of people definitely aren't hetero though. Or anyway, they aren't cisgender and straight and vanilla and mainstream in every other possible way related to sex and gender. We have no idea how many people are queer, but it's a lot more than 5%, and we won't know what the actual numbers are like until there have been several generations that are very queer accepting.

[-] thepianistfroggollum@lemmynsfw.com 11 points 1 year ago

"We have no idea, but it's definitely not that," is a bit contradictory, don't you think?

[-] Sas@beehaw.org 9 points 1 year ago

I don't think so.

The current world paints queer people as exotic and abnormal most of the time, which is due to representation being so low and most importantly hidden away.

For example Disney, where most kids get their movies from, scrapped Nimona because there's a gay couple in the main cast, and Netflix picked it back up. How many headlines have we had that the first Disney movie with a gay couple is going to happen, only for that gay couple to be 2 people that pass more for very good friends or might just be in the background.

And Netflix isn't that great either, scrapping lesbian shows the moment it becomes obvious. Famous example being Warrior Nun. They admitted to making the first season straight bait so they'd get a second season after which they've been cancelled. Don't get me wrong, Warrior Nun wasn't a qualitatively great show but we lesbians loved it, because we're so starved for shows with representation, and it made Netflix good profits.

Most of queer representation has to be specifically seeked out which is exactly what's wrong and leads to the assumption that everyone is cishet.

So yeah in a world where most kids assume they can't be queer because there's normal and there is queer and they are just a normal kid and being different is scary it can be assumed that official statistics are not representative of the actual percentage.

[-] jarfil@beehaw.org 4 points 1 year ago

There are "at least" 15% non-cishet people out there. We have no idea how many more, but it's definitely not that.

[-] VoxAdActa@beehaw.org 3 points 1 year ago

“We have no idea, but it’s definitely not that,” is a bit contradictory, don’t you think?

That's a technique right out of my ex's playbook: "Do you know or don't you?"

Example: "You said you don't know how many there are. That means there could just be 1. Oh, but you know the number is more than 1? So you do know? But you just said you don't know. Are you lying to me?"