Not quite sure what your point is, just general apathy?

That we have different perspectives. I already see us as the old guys shouting at the clouds (of reddit etc) for being bad. I certainly shout enough at most of Metas and Googles and Apples and Tencents products to fit that bill. I certainly don't have all of the technology that some other people use, because I'm not willing to sell my soul to those companies any more.
I don't feel like an early adopter. Lemmy is 4 years old, ActivityPub is 5 years old, Mastodon is 7 Years old.
I feel much more like a niche idiot who doesn't want to give FAANG the rights to his data, and because of that doesn't live with the times and doesn't have google maps, isn't on instagram for my friends to reach and doesn't know about the latest tiktok trend.

If meta comes you’re not going to get to “go back here”, that’s the whole point of discussion - what them coming means for the current fediverse and what kind of damage it can cause.

No, it's about what happens here when meta comes. We will not stop it.
And yes, Meta can do quite a lot of damage, although I'd guess a "non-meta-fediverse" i.e. a fediverse that completely blocks all meta-content would reasonably quickly look just like this, because it's what we have right now.
Anyway, because of the damage they can do, one should talk to them. Even if you can't sway them one iota, you learn of their plans, and can act accordingly.

You can still do the same on reddit yet you felt the need to come here, so obviously you care at least a bit about outside interference.
No I can't create a small reddit and federate with my friends small reddit, let alone the mother-reddit.
I can't even create a small (modern) reddit, as the code is not open anymore.