there are a couple things I see differently here. Making respeccing easier makes those choices have less meaning since you can change them so easily. This further diminishes the idea of "leveling" and "building" characters because without making those character-defining choices as you level, what is there to "build" when "building a character?". leveling also then becomes an arbitrary barrier that serves to just lock content behind. Which makes me wonder why we are okay with leveling if it's yet another time waster for content?

and I find it interesting that you don't like being locked into a role in a "roleplaying game." This is I think another thing where there just are two different perspectives. I'm building. a specific character who excels at certain things that others of my kind do not. I feel like the RPG portion of ARPG is getting lost in the genre.

yes you say we in real life can learn to do new things, but I don't think you can argue that we can do all things, even in a given "field" or "class.". and even if you did do all things, can you say you'd do them all well? I just don't agree that it's a reflection of real life that you can drop all of your learned skills to master another. it can often take decades to master a particular practice.