Our close family friend is an OBGYN, and I assure you, doctors in the real world are not concerned whatsoever at the point of birth. It's something I can confidently say as we've had discussions about it in the past.

When a doctor delivers a child, the only thing on their mind is that the child is delivered alive and healthy. The paperwork is just part of the job, and at that point in the child's life it's really only about identification of the individual. Is it right that parents guess the gender based on genitalia? I'd say it is; because in most instances, it's correct. I think the problem stems from the point at which you see signs that it isn't correct. I think most individuals keep barreling ahead, at that point - forcing that particular gender identity on their child. Which I can agree - is wrong; and something I am guilty of with my child earlier on.

Tbf I suspect society has called them gender reveal parties because sex (reveal) parties can be miscommunicative in an entirely different way.

"It's got a dooong" also has a different vibe from "it's a boooy".

Idk, no horse in this race. Those parties are stupid anyways.