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I didn't chose the cis life, the cis life chose me
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Hi, I ask this in good faith: what are some examples of how cis people face hostility for being happily cis?
Well a couple of times previously I've posted about being happy to be cis, and was immediately downvoted and pounced on by people saying I was bigoted and disrespectful to others. Yet all i was trying to say is, I'm gay and a cis person and I think that should be respected the same as it's expected for me to respect whatever someone else chooses to be.
Yeah, that's whack when it happens. I think most trans people actually like hearing cis people talk positively about their own gender.
However, context is everything. If a trans person is lamenting about a bad day for dysphoria, they probably don't want to hear about how great it is being cis.
I hope people are OK with cis people being OK with themselves. I fully support trans people. I recently had a letter published in our local paper about how if trans people ever do act out, (this was in regard to a shooter who had identified as a trans person) it will be because of all the bigotry and hateful legislation driving them (and many others of us LGBTQ) to do something extreme.
You get put down for being LGBTQ, and then you get put down for defending yourself whatever your gender or orientation. It's a no-win situation.
One example I can think of is how cis people (usually cis males) who choose to crossdress are often misgendered, made fun of, and told they must not be cis because of how they dress.
Though I'm not really sure if this actually counts because these issues I described also affect trans people who are gender Non-Conforming, in very similar ways.
What's more likely is that their comment is just a funny joke, where they swapped the roles of cis and trans in the passage and the joke part is that it sounds absurd and isn't supposed to make sense.
That's true also. And what's weird is, I'm gay but I've known a couple guys who were cis and dressed up as females because, it felt empowering to them. And they were both straight in terms of their orientation, one had a girlfriend, the other guy was married.
So it's kind of strange to be a gay person who is friendly (which I am), people open up to me about all kinds of things and, it's just assumed I will be OK with anything (because I'm gay? I guess) so, I've seen all kinds of things.
For the most part I accept others no matter what, because we all need validation and we all need to feel that. But i do get push back when I post that I'm cis and happy to be cis, like that's somehow unacceptable or disrespectful to others. It isn't meant to be at all.
As a happy cis person I'll tell you.
Corporations are making some ads aimed at not me.
Some media programs are being made where I'm not the only target audience.
Also some cis writers and performers found they can't hate on trans people without being told some people dont want to hear it and wont give them money or attention anymore.
If I have a child that says they are trans I can't beat them without the potential consequences that come with beating your child for any reason.
It's rough out there /s