If given a new life would you choose to be born the same sex that you were? (sh.itjust.works)

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I mean like I accept who I was born as but if given the choice I’d choose to be born a woman, yk? Idk but I kinda envy them a bit but i’m fine being an unsexy man

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[-] StellarExtract@lemm.ee 23 points 7 months ago

Opposite, no question. I don't hate being AMAB, and there are parts I like, but a lot of aspects of it are really boring to me. Lack of clothing options/self-expression being a big one. It's frankly always felt like a box I've been forced into even though parts of it fit well. That said, I'd probably feel the same if I were AFAB, just about different aspects. I don't want to transition in my current life, but I'd definitely switch in a new life.

[-] RegalPotoo@lemmy.world 11 points 7 months ago

Same boat- AMAB, and no dysphoria with that at all, but yeah, a little jealous of women's fashion options.

It's taken me until my mid thirties, but things I've come to realise:

There are a bunch more options for women - entire categories of garments that aren't socially applicable for men to wear - but a lot of that comes from a much wider variance in body shape for women. There are plenty of things that just don't work if you aren't a size 12 B-cup with a conventional body shape. A cropped top is just as off limits if you are a woman with a bit of a tummy or D+ cup breasts as it is for men
There are options for men, but they aren't always as obvious, and often end up looking more formal - try different shoes, different coloured belts layering things (open shirt over a t-shirt etc)
Most men (and I'm super guilty of this) don't get a haircut as often as they should. There is a whole world of options and styles, try some out, find one you like from a barber you have a rapport with, go regularly to keep it looking good

[-] Twitches@lemm.ee 5 points 7 months ago

Completely agree, you can wear a dress, leggings, a blouse, style your hair, but, I'm sitting hear in my boring uncomfortable pants and t shirt. I completely agree with everything your saying.

[-] bighatchester@lemmy.world 16 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

Nothing is forcing you to dress that way . I wear a skirt a few times and they are very comfy. Also I really enjoy some colorful nail polish! Do what ever you want it's your life!! I've been in drag a few times too , one time my gf gave me a classic Harley Quinn look and she dressed as the Joker !

[-] Twitches@lemm.ee 2 points 7 months ago

I love this!

[-] pete_the_cat@lemmy.world 4 points 7 months ago

There's this girl I found a while back that posts on GoneWild and OF (ForestGreen91) and she can completely change her look just by styling her hair differently and putting on some makeup. It can change her from a 5 to an 8.5 easily. It's actually quite impressive.

I live in Miami now and it's a very fashionable city, all the women look sexy as hell with different style dresses, shoes, accessories, and hair styles. All the guys largely look the same, myself included.