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Lemmy is a worse platform for women than Reddit was
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this post was submitted on 13 May 2024
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I don't actually want to be nomadic, I'd love nothing more than to have a group of gaming friends that lasts. Inevitably, each time finding a new group gets harder.
I have no support network, No real social group either. I am for all intent and purpose a ghost. My opinions don't matter, my presence isn't wanted. No one notices when I leave.
yeah i get it, i don't really want to be nomadic myself. But to me the value of being able to appear in places and disappear in others is massive. So far the best theory i've come up with is putting together a friend group like it's a card deck for something. I don't think putting groups together in a literal "hey i'm here now" tends to work out all that often. There are a couple of groups of people that i've clicked really well with over the years, and even though it's drifted i'm in good light with them, and likewise, there are other groups out there that exist in a sort of liminal state, those also tend to be pretty nice. Though much harder to find.
One of these days i would like to spin up a public/private instance of a chat relay/server or something, and spend a few years collecting some of the more interesting people in the bunch to be in a personal circle. I think that's probably about as close as i would get to having a social group/support network. And being the head admin there, i have sole discretion at the users expense, so i don't have to worry about moderation bullshit.
I think the idea of "join a group of people like you about this specific thing" is dead now unfortunately. I think we're at a point where you need to build a group specifically for the purpose that it exists.
Behavior like what you act out here, calling out women over a nuance that barely matters, is exactly the stuff that inspired me to make this post.
Thank you for illustrating my point.
it's funny to me that they're instanced on solarpunk. Which is ostensibly the very worst instance you could possibly choose to be mad at other people. Though i suppose it might be doomer enough over there to matter? IDK, i'm not a solar punk nerd myself.
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