For people that want an instance-level block for the Big 3 Axis powers - hexbear.net, lemmygrad.ml, and Lemmy.ml - are you aware of anything that could be recommended?

I also went through all the top ones at https://lemmyverse.net/ and very few to nothing is defederated from lemmy.ml (though yffit is defederated by Lemmy.ml...:-P).

Kbin.social might have been, but I'm not certain and it's been down for several days. Possibly an Mbin one could be but that also has enormous implications for apps chosen and the interface in general.

So what I'm trying to think of is a Lemmy instance to recommend to people, even irl to consider joining the Fediverse, bc otherwise I'm hesitant to recommend us at this point, given all the absolute shit that I would be exposing them too by default, until they learn how to block stuff. It's similar to Linux then in that unless I walk them through setting up an account and curating their experience, it's too overwhelming and they will just give up. For whatever reason, we collectively have decided that we are okay with this really terrible situation that heavy curation is mandatory... even as we also claim that we want the Fediverse to grow.