Thank you. This comment resonates a lot with me, as despite it having been over a year I'm still struggling with coming to terms with having had to break up a 5 year-long relationship for my own good (it's not that long in the grand scheme of things). The way I would describe it is that she was molding me into the person that I was expecting to become when the relationship started, which was totally different from the person I ended up evolving into. I am glad I did it, but I still struggle with the pain I caused her during the process.

I had back surgery last year at 29, and while I didn't end up disabled, I'm seeing my life change in small ways because of it. It's weird feeling so young but having to limit certain activities because you could become paraplegic if anything goes wrong.

I didn't have anything to add to your comment, I'm just glad you posted it!